Borderline personality disorder is living in a contradiction with so much uncertainty. No matter what you feel, there is always pain. There is always so much blame. There is always so much anxiety. The thought of someone you love leaving you is so terrifying that you lose any kind if logical thinking possible. Anything you say and do is run by sheer terror.
A psychologist’s advice on dealing with depression in relationships
Dating a Man with Depression: What You Need to Know and Do | Talkspace
When you date a man with depression, it can become a struggle to maintain a relationship with him and protect your own mental health. The experience is not fundamentally different than dating someone without a mental illness, but there are issues that are more likely to arise. By understanding these issues and knowing how to respond, you can support the man you love without threatening the relationship or your emotional wellbeing. Note: We discuss the following insights in the context of dating men, but they apply equally to women. Scroll further down to read about behaviors and situations you are more likely to encounter with men only.
Depression Part Two by Allie Brosh. Depression is not incompatible with finding love or someone to spend the night with but it does present certain challenges. Having depression has been likened to a waterboarding of the soul, so it can be understandably hard on said soul and its mate.
We remember the embarrassing parts. And we constantly think about to the point where we will hurt ourselves over something that happened a year ago. Living with anxiety cripples you in day to day activities. You cannot possibly fathom just how hard it is for us to go about normally. Pointing things out makes us even more conscious about what we did and makes us shrink back deeper and deeper into ourselves.